After being asked by my friends and family on several occasions, I would like to share my personal thoughts on what I was looking for in a wife. Being a Christian, she must definitely be a born again Christian herself. If possible, so should her family although that is of lesser importance. I would never in my life end up marrying someone who is not a Christian. The reason is simple, in accordance and obedience to God’s word in the bible.

The second most important thing I was looking for in a wife is a woman that would be completely frank and honest with me. I wanted someone who was not afraid of telling me the truth as it is… regardless of whether it was hurtful ( which it often was ). Those 2 criterias are the most important.. other things such as physical beauty, intellectual ability, etc… did not matter so much. Naturally, being a man, I would want someone who was attractive and pleasing to look at, someone whom I was comfortable with and able to have open conversations. Having a woman who would speak her mind is definitely a must have.

So I prayed for these things many years ago during my university days. Physically speaking, I would like someone who had long flowing hair, big beautiful eyes and a cheerful smile. Personality wise, I wanted someone who was cheerful, bubbly and just fun to hang around with. Intellectually, I hoped for someone who was intelligent and was willing to talk about any issue regardless of how serious or silly it may be.

Of course, as long as I found someone who was a Christian and is unafraid of speaking her mind, that would be more than I could ask for. Everything else was secondary. 2 years later, I found her… and after another 3 years and 9 months, we were married… and she is everything I had prayed for… and much much more. She is my best friend, my teacher, my constant companion and, of course, my wife. She has helped me grow so much in the past 4 years since we started our journey together in this relationship.

It has been a very difficult and stormy journey as there was a whole lot of conflict and argument in the earlier days of our relationship. I was definitely unprepared to deal with her frankness and blunt honestly… but as time went by, I learned to understand her better and am still learning to see things from her point of view. I know she loves me deeply and will not tolerate anything that gets in the way of developing a solid relationship between us… even if it is necessary to get into arguments when I have been less than sensitive or just been laid back.

If there is one thing that I have learned as I am being constantly reminded… is that I must always be on my guard. I must be quick to correct my mistakes, acknowledge my faults and re-establish a good line of communication with my wife whenever misunderstanding or an argument breaks out. While I am hopeless when it comes to love, God has given me a good mind to think and to learn… and He has provided me the best teacher on how to love someone other than myself… my wife herself.

Thanks dear… I love you… and wouldn’t know how to if it weren’t for you.